Here are some suggested best practices to introduce persons with autism to new people, and environments like teachers, friends and new homes
Best-practice introductions for autistic people follow one rule: preview, don’t surprise.
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Send a “movie trailer” first. One-page profile (photo, likes, dislikes, calming tools) emailed to the teacher or new neighbor before the handshake ever happens.
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Stage the set. Visit the new classroom, home, or playground at closing time—empty seats, dim lights, zero social pressure. Let the novelty wear off in private.
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Anchor with objects, not just words. A familiar scented hand lotion, a tiny Lego piece in the pocket, or the same welcome snack turns the stranger’s space into a portable piece of home.
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Script the roles. “First I show my dinosaur card, then you show yours” gives both kids a turnkey conversation; teachers receive a two-sentence self-advocacy script the learner has rehearsed with mom.
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Use “micro-exposures.” Ten minutes on day 1, twenty on day 3, full length by week 2—timers visible so trust grows faster than overwhelm.
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Pair every new person with a favorite interest. The new babysitter arrives wearing a space-mission lanyard; the realtor greets with a local rock-collection map. Shared passion jump-starts rapport before small talk is required.
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Build an exit signal in advance—card with a red “B” on the desk, subtle hand on heart—so the learner can self-revoke without humiliation.
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Debrief in pictures. Snap three photos during the visit, sequence them on the tablet that night, and add a fourth frame titled “Next time I can…” Autonomy is rehearsed while memories are still elastic.
Respect the tempo of the autistic nervous system: when the preview is longer than the premiere, the curtain rises on confidence instead of chaos.
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